i'm not married and i've never cheated on a boyfriend and i've never been with a man who was married. but my parents divorced before i was a year old and i've always wondered if an affair had anything to do with it. my dad is kind of a player now and i asked him if he did and he said no, but i am very doubtful that i'll ever get the truth. all i do now is assume. but i agree with aber (as usual). i will always have the picture in my head of my dad being unfaithful, and i can't deny the fact that i would've had my father when i needed him if it weren't for his actions, i would've had a father. but i see the other side in that it is easy to be unfaithful, especially if there is little chance of being found out. desire gets the best of people sometimes. now that i'm an adult i can see both sides. it's a tough one you know? i'd be interested in some other people's opinions...