Rajaat, i recently went through this very same situation. The only difference is that i was the married one. I can be totally honest with you because everyone else here already knows the story. If you care to go back and read it, just search for threads recently made by billygalbreath.

Anywho... here's the jist... though I was not formally married, I was in a very serious relationship with someone, 3 yrs. Our realtionship had long since been dead, and that's no lie. Well, I started a new job and I met Blake (or Billy, as everyone here knows him). I immediately felt attracted to him, and by what I could tell, he felt the same way. We went out to lunch together one day, in secret of course. When we got back, I cornered him in the copy room and tried to kiss him. He backed away, said he couldn't because I was with someone. I was hurt, but refused to give up (I should be ashamed, but I'm not sorry to say that I'm not). Shortly thereafter he caved and we started seeing each other even outside of work. We would kiss a lot, but nothing more. Finally one day, my now ex and I got into a huge argument and I left. It was the best thing I could have done. Now Blake and I are extremely happy. Though we still don't live together, there are plans for the near future. It all worked out.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not condoning (sp?) affairs. But (at the risk of sounding cliche') a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. Do what it takes to find true hapinness. Talk to this girl, find out what the deal is before you reveal anything. If you both see that something may happen, go for it. But if not, simply leave matters alone. There's no need to hurt anyone if it will never happen again. If there are kids involved, think it through really good. Be absolutely sure this is what you BOTH want.

I hope this helps.

-Faby