You might check out the book, "Love Tactics"

You sound a lot like me, and if I had read this book 20 years ago, I'd be married with kids by now, I'm sure. At any rate, it explains what's going on in your relationship, and will cause you to take heart, as true friendship is the stuff that true love is made of. Keep in mind that, "friendship" means being able to think out loud in front of your "friend" without worry of what they will think about you. I have a very small handful of friends. The rest are aquaintances...

I've been in so many relationships, where I hear a girl say, "If someone did that for me, I'd be his," but then when it actually happens, they run. It's just human nature to want what we can't have.