You're forgeting one thing she's probably scared of the relationship that's the problem. it's good to give her time to think and what not but when it comes down to it she may never run to him if she feels uncomfortable. Another thing the last thing any woman with a couple of kids needs is an unpredictable guy she needs to feel safe and secure unlike what she felt with her two other marreiges with guys who probably weren't safe and secure. It's nice to suprise her nicely but rejecting her is gonna turn her away. And another thing you will hurt her feelings and turn her away even more if u avoid her and never apoligise. If you are busy then naturally say you're sorry but you have to go and that you can ring her back later but don't do it unless it's the truth for goodness sake don't lie to her! She will come around this way but not just because she sees you as a good guy but coz she see's you as a wonderful guy she can trust to be there for her.