Guy #1
My b/f of a few years has cheated on me once a number of months back (1 night stand) and I chose to forgive him. ....THEN i get a call the other day from a friend of his saying that in the summer he had been trying to hook up with his g/f behind my back while I was at work or on my way out. He just caught him the other day msging her (although at this time all he got to say was "hi") and he flew off the handle at him and called & told me all about it. My b/f admitted to msging her, and thinking about cheating, but chose not to.....He has no friends, he can't open up to his family because they will make fun of him, he works with his brother who is a genuine jerk and is completely stressed out and wants to quit. He "sees me as the only one he has" and can't bear to loose me, then he will have "nothing".
I don't like this guy. Something doesn't sit right. He cheated on you, admitted to thinking about cheating again (and probably only didn't because you caught him before he got the chance) and now is begging and using 'guilt' to keep you? "You're all I have left! If you leave, I won't have anyone!" That's a low trick. He'll MAKE new friends. He's playing the "I'm nothing without you" card that women fall for oh-so-easily.
Guy #2
Only problem is he is 26 and never had a g/f. He is shy. Not that that is necessarily bad, but he seems to be the type who wants me to always tell him what to do, (some would say that's great) but I'm not comfortable with that. He is always worried that he is doing the wrong thing, or something. I think it's because it's so new to him.
This guy sounds like a good choice. So he's never had a girlfriend. He's gonna end up getting one SOMETIME. We all start at SOME point. Looks like he just wasn't ready to start until now. As for the telling him what to do, he'll grow out of that when you guys get more comfortable around each other. Right now he's probably worried about saying/doing the wrong thing. So he's trying to let YOU set the pace so that he doesn't upset you by going too fast or too slow.
Guy #3
A guy who I somewhat work with. We've been talking lately. We talked while I was split up from my b/f too. He is 14 years older than me. He is SO MUCH FUN! I don't ever stop laughing when I am with him. He loves to just up and travel for the weekend. But he can be very mature, and makes me feel very special when I am with him. Only problem is that he wants me to commit to him right away. As in move in and the works.
I'm thinking this guy can't be all that great if he's 14 years older than you and (A) not in a serious relationship, (B) hitting on girls 14 years younger than him, which doesn't show much class at all and (C) wants a full committal right off the bat. Think about it, if he was so quick to hit on you, what makes you think that he's so enthralled that he's not gonna go out and hit on some other young girl who thinks he's so charming?
As for the quick committment issue, be forewarned that that is a BIG sign of someone who is an abuser in the relationship. Check out these websites and you'll see them on the list.
http://www.saferchild.org/warning1.htm - It's the
VERY FIRST sign according to this website (which BTW, as you may notice, is completely non-profit and nothing but serious.
http://www.a2zgorge.info/prevention/...ning-signs.htmThe number two on that list
http://www.ripin.org/warningabusive.html The number one on that one (Cause I consider moving in together and committment a very serious and quick step)
And the list goes on and on. Just go to google and type in "signs of abusive partner".
I'd be VERY VERY careful with #3. If you DO decide to pursue #3 (which in my opinion would not be very smart), be firm on telling him that you don't want to move in, you barely know him, and want to take your time when thinking about such serious steps. See how he reacts (if he agrees, if he gets upset/mad, if he decides just to get rid of you or see you less while he pursues someone else who WOULD move in).
I vote #2, and push him as fast as you want, and eventually he'll catch up.
Alexi