We've been together for a month. Her ex of 1 year still calls. They've been apart for 4 months. He sounds like a real winner as he used to beat her and such. He was the typical guy she would date though--I am her opposite as is she to me. (We've known each other for 5 years)

He calls her at least 2x a day plus texting (messaging).

She says they are just friends. She says he still wants her. She, of course, tells me she doesn't want him but sees nothing wrong with being friends.

When we first started dating she said he would eventually go away. I now find out that she doesn't really do anything to discourage it. She didn't even tell him about me until two weeks later. She hesitated out of fear. Even though he has a new girlfriend, when he learned of me, he threatened to kill my girlfriend saying he couldn't believe she was doing that, etc.

So after he called two nights ago, I basically said he goes or I go. She said she shouldn't have to choose.

Thoughts? Opinions?