Originally Posted by blue
no, there is no hope any longer 4 the two of you, becuz u ghave entered a line that should not have been crossed. no matter what ever happens u should not hit a woman! & she should not lay her hands on you either. thats just it sometimes things work sometimes they dont! this relationnship has been unhealthy for a long time, and yeah maybe counseling should be in order but for yourself and seperatley, the fact that you smacked her makes me think of your inability to cope and what you will do to the next girl when things are not going your way. obviously you guys dont bring out the best in eachother and are not willing to compromise on things either. let this go and take some time and focus on you.
Do you feel this is so even if the contact made was a mistake (the contact itself was completely unintentional) and if we got help, individually or together?
I have never been in a relationship that seemed so dark in some ways - it honestly felt that she was manipulating me, almost like a passive aggressive/obsessive compulsive personality disorder person. However, we connected on a level we (I, certainly, and I take her word for it) have not experienced and it seemed that, with some guidance concerning our communications, it might have been life long love. I still love her very much and wish for nothing less than her complete happiness and would do all I could to contribute to it. I did not feel that she would have done the same, but I understand that she has more subtle ways.
I do know that the contact was not right, accident or no. I have never struck a person before. It is something I will speak with counselor over, though, as I would not want such an accident to occur again.
What are your impressions of the behavior of my girlfriend? Are you sure you are not just hearing the word "strike" and feeling that it is indubutably hopeless?
Thank you so much for your consideration.