Originally Posted by Jenrick285
I'd have to agree with Blue...
After a certain age we all kinda grow up and learn compromise and communication (Some sooner than others)... but in all honesty, with the efforts you put out, has she even thrown you a bone as to she's trying to get this to work?
In my humble opinion (and there are times I'm in left field), I think she's selfish, she has trust issues, and self esteem isssues. Even if I'm wrong 2/3, it's still enough to ask yourself, "Have given till I can't give anymore? Is there something else I can do?"
If you answers come to the same conclusions, then tell her you love her very very much but you need more and run.. run away.. to the hills ~
Relationships/Love isn't supposed to be so complicated, it should just come naturally
Just me two schillings
I have seen that she has made efforts. She tends to tiptoe around things, even before we got bad together. At work, I know she does similar things - at least in terms of the tiptoeing and not wanting to communicate. I think she had hard time communicating when she was younger - mom harsh, dad not around. With us, she began to tiptoe even more - I could feel she was getting cautious about things I didn;t concern with, though still getting belligerent when it came to my saying (Again...and again) that she was still seeming self centered, which has always been my problemwith her. People make mistakes, and sometimes what is perfect for one is not for me in a situation, and I understand this - but THAT belligerence, defensiveness, accusation is what made me so mad, and affected my mistakes, for which I feel great regret and sorrow. When she is away from the fight, and sometimes when I've just walked away, she has said how anal she is or what a "pain in the ass" she is (her phrase). But her difficulty seems dificult for her to see when even gingerly confronted.
I feel that she may even have been sabotaging the relationship, almost looking for the worst in me to afix to me, and the worst in me came out.
But, yes, she does try sometimes, and has changed some of her ways for us. It is very subtle. She is very intelligent, and seems to have spent many years developing her ways.
Thank you.