Originally Posted by Adonis
I got stood up too
this is the first year that i lived by myself and the first Chritsmas that I was by myself. I hated it because my ex who i haven't lost and am i n love with stood me up for this guy that he just broke up with in October. I wanted to hang out with him but he decided to hang out with this guy who he broke up with because he wanted to have sex with me. Now its the holidays and he went to this guys family's house which only the next city over from where I live. All week before Christmas he was telling he was deciding to either hang out with or go to this guys house so that pissed me off and he told me I'll call you when I can buit don"t call me. So I guess he's telling me its over i dont want to be negative but it looks loike I've lost him for good
So I know what its like to be ditched for someone else
it bites. Be careful with this girl because emotionally she is not stable but if you see this going somewhere def help her out. I haven't been in her situation but i understand hopw she may have been confused. Especially with exes she may feel some sort obligation to this guy. Don't push too much let her open up to you. Its hard but its the best thing you can do right now.Don't grill her with questions or small stuff eg what hey did or talked about if she wants to tell you she will. She will respect you more i wish i had done this before so at least if i can tell you i knowat least someone will be happy this holiday season I know I wont be
I'm sorry to heare that Adonis, like you said, I know how it feels but my last nights situation is a bit different, everything was fine up until litterly the last minute. I won't drill her with questions, we're far too 'new' for that, but I'll listen. Her late night message says a lot. Maybe I'm rebound? Maybe she's confused? Again, I'll hear her out as I see potential and don't object to trying to help her. (Within reason, of course)
As far as exes and Xmas, I was really hurt that my ex-wife hadn't called for six weeks to just say hi and see how I'm doing. Then I realized that I hadn't called her either. I don't love her anymore, but I care about her as a friend. Then one day last week I get a message, 'Just called to say hi and see how you're doing. Also, I need your address to drop off a little something. I'm having a rough time (emotionally) at this time. (Meaning being without me at Xmas, I know her well). She dropped off a canister of her homemade spagetti sauce with a bow and ribbon that she knew I always loved. That was very thoughful and made me feel better.
And, like you, I spent my first Xmas alone in 15 years. I went from a long-term relationship into my first marriage, then pretty soon after that ended into my second marriage (the spagetti girl). That's why last night was so important to me. After the cancelation, it was just me and the Doberman and a good book. But...Thank God for my Mother and my long-distance family. The love that's there is amazing, I just wish I had a lady to share it with.
Meanwhile, I'll wait a few hours and call 'Miss emotional basket case' back and just listen.