I'm sorry to heare that Adonis, like you said, I know how it feels but my last nights situation is a bit different, everything was fine up until litterly the last minute. I won't drill her with questions, we're far too 'new' for that, but I'll listen. Her late night message says a lot. Maybe I'm rebound? Maybe she's confused? Again, I'll hear her out as I see potential and don't object to trying to help her. (Within reason, of course)

As far as exes and Xmas, I was really hurt that my ex-wife hadn't called for six weeks to just say hi and see how I'm doing. Then I realized that I hadn't called her either. I don't love her anymore, but I care about her as a friend. Then one day last week I get a message, 'Just called to say hi and see how you're doing. Also, I need your address to drop off a little something. I'm having a rough time (emotionally) at this time. (Meaning being without me at Xmas, I know her well). She dropped off a canister of her homemade spagetti sauce with a bow and ribbon that she knew I always loved. That was very thoughful and made me feel better.

And, like you, I spent my first Xmas alone in 15 years. I went from a long-term relationship into my first marriage, then pretty soon after that ended into my second marriage (the spagetti girl). That's why last night was so important to me. After the cancelation, it was just me and the Doberman and a good book. But...Thank God for my Mother and my long-distance family. The love that's there is amazing, I just wish I had a lady to share it with.

Meanwhile, I'll wait a few hours and call 'Miss emotional basket case' back and just listen.