WELL... This is somewhat complicated. The way I see this storyline is like such:
1) Boy meets girl.
2) Boy and girl date.
3) Boy and girl love each other.
4) Boy has problems, needs time alone.
SO FAR NOTHING HERE HAS HAPPENED WRONG! The fact that you needed time alone is perfectly OK. I would have been pissed to find out that she fooled around with other guys.
5) Boy is ready to get back together, but girl is hurt. Now.. this is where the conflict is. She's hurt, and naturally I think she would want to make you feel pain to get back at you for whatever it is that you did to her. However, I would be ASSUMING that that's her type of personality. So, moving right along... 6) Girl says "we are just friends"
Now, THIS is the part where you should be looking at. You ever said it yourself:
Originally Posted by Lostshootinstar
almost as if she has to convince herself of it.
Now, I don't think telling her "you know.. we don't have to be just friends anymore. why don't we go **** in a bathroom stall for a few?" would work. Definately a no-no. So, knowing that women tend to look at things
emotionally not logically there should be something you can do to help. Now, you need to remember that her friends are an issue. Personally, I don't think you should give a **** about what your friends think, because you're the one ****in' somebody--not them.
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This is me and friend:
Friend: Ewww she's fat!
Me: Yeah well go **** yourself.
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Here are the issues
1) Getting her friends to like you...again.
2) Getting her to let go of what happened.
This shouldn't be too bad. Now, issue #1 shouldn't be that bad, because, if you can take care of #2, then Valerie will take down #1 herself. You understand? Good.
How you do this is not by TELLING her things, but just go along with this shit.
YOU ARE THE MALE. YOU NEED TO BE IN CONTROL *cough*
The way to make a woman like you is to:
1) Not act like all the other average guys out there.
2) Make her laugh.
3) Be unpredictable, challenging, and mysterious.
...of course there are more ingredients, but use
these for your next meeting.
Don't act nervous or uncomfortable. Treat her like
you've know her all your life... almost like she's
your bratty little sister.
Tease her and make her laugh. Have fun.
Don't be PREDICTABLE. Do things that surprise her.
Say things that keep her wanting to hear more. Tell
interesting stories, and don't answer her questions
directly... instead, make her work for the answers.
And enjoy yourself...
The key, basically, is be unpredictable. It will make her let go of past shit because you are a NEW guy that keeps exciting things comin' up.