Now, I want you to call her up and say THIS:

"hey, i was tellin a close friend of mine about our problem, and he asked me what i wanted--what the most desirable end result was for me. and this is what i said, maybe we can figure somethin out--but you need to know this..

The most desirable end result is for she and I to get back together and be able to communicate better - just better, more often than not, is all it would take...can't always expect it to be ideal - so we can have that and everything else that was so unusually good with us. For her to trust my intentions without suspecting me of doing things that her mother did or previous boyfriends did, for me to continue understanding how my tone of voice affects her (as she seems to see those other people in it - she spent half her life dealing with an oppressive mother, having to avoid conflict, having to meet demanding expectations), and for us to empathize. (I think these things contributed to her reaction to my approach - and maybe her dad's death when she was 14 even affects her fear of being hurt; I can't really know.) To let her be her and for her to know I truly appreciate her, though sometimes need to talk through some things if they affect me without her thinking I'm thinking she is generally a bad person, and for her to feel comfortable with doing the same. And, maybe, to look at her beautiful face as we sit somewhere in the warm, late afternoon sunlight sometime many years down the road and silently, vaguely feel her and the years, like a birds' view of us within this short life."