My opinion? I think that you have already decided that you don't want to be with him. And for that, I don't blame you in the least.

Although I am only 23, I have had my share of bad relationships. This to me is a bad relationship.

He is controlling and possestive. No matter how sweet he may be in other areas, this factor is still there. This is something that someone USUALLY doesn't get over.

Do you really want to be told what to do, where to go, and who you can and cannot speak to? My dear, you are 17. This is the time to be having the time of your life!

AND DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT let a guy affect your decision on college. Not at all. There is a saying that goes "Matierial things can be lost, and relationships come and go, but once you've got your education, it can never be taken from you". It's the only thing that is garunteed to be with you for the rest of your life. Do not give it up because it's not on someone else's plans for you. You are 17, do not let a guy choose your future for you. If he loved you like he should, then he would happily support you in what you want to do.

I personally think that you should end things between you and "Joe". I do not agree with the post above that you will be wrecking his life. You have to think about you, and put your happiness first in this case. Does he make you 110% happy? If not, then there is someone out there that will. Yes he probably will be hurt, but he has also hurt you by putting all of this pressure on you all of the time. I'm assuming since you said that you are both seniors in school that he is 17 as well. Trust me, he will survive and get over it.

But then again, I do not agree that you should go after his best friend. That is sort of low. And if this guy is any kind of friend, than he will not do that to his buddy. Also this guy has a g/f. No matter how serious they are, he does still have a g/f. Do this poor unsuspecting girl a favor and do not try and start something with him while he is involved with her. If he does end up being interested in you as well, Joe will have lost his g/f and his best friend all at once. Let things cool for awhile with you and Joe and then after a lengthy period of time, if things happen to come together for you and this other guy, then so be it.

If you are planning on attending college away from where you live now, then it's probably a better idea to just stay single for awhile. You have alot of dating time still ahead of you. This way when you do move away, you won't have the burden of a long distacne relationship, and will be free to enjoy the adult dating world with new people.

I hope things work out for the best.