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1.> do not give her an ultimatium you never give a woman one unless you want her to chose to leave

2.> this relationship is going to end badly,

3.> the reason she keeps her stuff down there is because she is scared of being homeless again

4.> where is the child?

5.> he cheated on her 8 years ago and she just left him? self esteem issues

6.> take her and both of you recieve consuling before moving along any farther.

7.> this should be in a differnet location in this forum

scott