Originally Posted by misombra
no problem.
well, what else can you do besides let this grown woman do what she wants to do, whether it is move in with you or keep her apartment. you cannot make her give it up if she doesn't want to. she wants to know what it's like to have her own quiet, alone space so she can work things out without somebody around her. if i were you i would let her do what she wants. once she's ready to move in with you then she will. in the meantime enjoy that she is there with you. enjoy the fact that she has a place but is still willing to hang out at your house all the time.
a woman needs time and space. it doesn't matter whether or not you understand. it's not up to you to understand. it's her wishes and desires and you ought to respect them.
neither of you are yet divorced. maybe that bothers her. it would bother me. a lot.
You are absolutly right. That is how I have always handled these types of situations with other women. Just let it be and it will be. It's always worked before. It's just I want this relationship so bad that my brain has ceased to fuction correctly.
I know it's not up to me to understand but I would still like to. But I think I will take your advice and loosen up the grip a bit, it's just so hard when you want someone so bad.
I would think that if not being divorced was bothering her then she wouldn't spend so much time here, would she? I don't know, maybe.
Anyway thanks again.