Im going to tell her.....I know id want to know, and it keeps my mind clear. But Ill wait till i know when im meeting up with the ex first.

I supose my main consern was the actual meeting up! The advice has helped me not get dragged into any old emotional ties i have with her, but i know they are still there. Or at least this has sparked some to appear. Anyway thats at the extrem end of the spectrum. I know what i want from this meeting and its not her so the pressures off.

Ill keep you posted