Thanks for your reply, I do keep asking myself "why?"
When I think of the other woman, I know she is attractive, and younger than me..but if that is the reason, then there is not a lot I can do about that is there. I am who I am, and I can't change that, but I am the person who he has been with for the last 12 years. If he dosen't find me physicaly attractive anymore then why did he move in with me? I'm feeling very confused about all of this.
I'm also wondering..did he not tell me about it because he didn't want me to be hurt, or because he didn't want to face what he had done?
I don't know if him not telling me makes me feel better or worse?
Does anyone have any (or know anyone who has had) experiecnes like this?
Can you really get over being cheated on...or is our relationship now doomed to failure?