ask her what her and her friends do outside of school, or what her family is like. here is a website i found just for you... http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/ho...ness/step1.asp

i can't really give you advice on what to ask or what to say. there's no formula to it. there are so many things you could know about a person. ask her if she's right handed. here's an idea... write a list of things you would like to know about her. pick out the ones (not the naughty ones) but try to get as many as possible (except the naughty things, those come later). you know what i mean?