Hey. I decided to read this whole thing after glancing at it a few times. Anyway... I am a little confused. I don't have anything definite to tell you. If I were you, I would just wait it out a little longer. See how this spring break thing works out. If she goes without her husband, just be yourself and let her call the shots. Have fun but just continue to be respectful of her marriage. If she isn't talking about divorse from this guy, then these signals you are getting are not all that genuine. She may like you, but it doesn't mean she is going to leave her husband for you. Just continue to be her friend. She obviously needs you but she seems like she is using you and the other co-workers to fill a huge gap in her life that her husband is creating. What does he do? Is he around for her? Do they go out at all? I don't know if you can answer any of this without a bias, but try to. Just examine their marriage from a non-objective point of view. Just take a step back and try to see if she is even a little happy. If she seems like she will be ok, I don't suggest you put too much into this. You are puting your life on hold for a married woman. In this year and a half that you've known her, have you dated at all? Have you been dating recently? You need to take a look at your life and make sure you aren't puting everything aside for this woman. I would not talk to her about it just yet. As I said, give it more time. I wouldn't hold much hope for this working out though. Even if she leaves her husband for you, what will stop her from leaving you for the next nice guy that comes along? I'm not saying she'd do this, but she could. That's just one opinion though. Just let things happen as they always have but try to unattach yourself from this woman as best as you can. Give yourself a chance to find someone less attached. Who knows, in the time you've spent pining away for this woman, you could have been out dating and finding the perfect woman for you. You just need to look at things from other perspectives....get a little clarity. I really hope I was a bit of help. Let me know if I answered your question or if I missed anything. There was a lot to respond to. Take care.

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