Maybe I'm thinking this way because this I think that's the way this girl I've liked the most in the history of Freddie would think. (weird sentece...oh, well...)

I do see your point..if you're completely happy with someone, you shouldn't need to look for anything anywhere else...but one thing she said was, "how do you know what you're missing out on?" What if you've got a boy, but you never gave the opportunity to this other dude that maybe can make you even happier?? That's the logic behind it. And again, back to what I said earlier...it's a matter of time. If you're with me, want to be with me most of the time..that constitutes that preference I'm talking about. If I get 8 out of 10 calls, that's pretty awesome. You prefer me. And I think if we were liberal enough to accept this, maybe that would solve that little anxiety left in the back of your mind of the "what if"...or a subconcious reproach to your significant other for "making you commit", tying you up, so to speak. Even if you are very satisfied with this person ("completely" is too definitive...nothing is complete) this could be a little, small, little detail that doesn't have to be there. Like you say..if the person is satisfied with you anyway, then they will demonstrate this by not needing to date others...why does the rule need to be in place? Wouldn't it be healthy in a relationship for me to say, "you go with your friends and have a girl's night out and wreak havoc and do what you want...have a blast, get as wild as you want for this one night" and maybe this will help not allow any stressful buildup in a relationship of the kind I was talking about...the feeling you're stuck with this person because you committed to them and now, that's it! It's over. Now, I can see that if you did this EVERY night, then there's that issue of the time you're spending with me and the fact that you don't prefer me..you want to go out without me every night and THIS is what clues me that you don't prefer me.

So that's the theory behind that freedom I'm talking about being a healthy thing...but I can argue your case too: Having the rule in place..while it does put you in the spot that you're "stuck with this person" (and I purposefully used the negative interpretation rather than saying "committed to" becuase I'm proving the point of how the subconcious could be feeling anxious) there is also the trade off of the peace of mind you get knowing that it's a two way street and your significant other ALSO is not going around dating other people.

I still think that in theory, my rule-less relationship model is better. But yeah..I can also see that the uncertainty of it would suck. This can be countered, though, by constantly telling your partner what's up:

"Baby, you are my number one...you know that, right?"

"Yes, Pookie, I believe you"

That's all I'd need.

By the way..I'm Pookie in that dialogue.

Freds

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