Well, I suppose that is ultimately the issue at hand. I am needing control over this. I absolutely can insist he tell her, and he absolutely can not do it... I just don't know what to do then. This is not something want to endure until it is time to get married, but it is not a deal breaker either. I am truy in love with him. I am also human, and now concerned for the UNcontrolable growing resentment this situation is clearly becoming capable of.