I don't get it?

If we're hot..why do we wear clothes? Why don't we all walk around naked in the hot summer days?

There are rules in every society...unwritten rules sometimes. In my extreme example, chances are there will be a mother or father of a little one who will kick your ass if you decide to walk around naked in the park where they're trying to have a wholesome family day in the same park.

Marriage is sort of one of those unwritten things too...in most cultures still you are expected to eventually settle down with a nice wo/man and form a family and give your parents grandkids. It's not "do you want to get married?", it's "when are you gonna get married?".

Yeah, that mentality seems to be changing as we become more and more openly liberal as a society, but the influence is still too strong and, at least in my experience, most girls I know do still dream of eventually marrying some dude and having their whole dream wedding thing.

I try to use logic and go with the whole educated person's "this is nonesense" approach, but I see a movie featuring a beautiful wedding and I'd be lying if I said I didn't fantasize about having my own version of "American Wedding" (minus the Stiffler comedy).

I know that was learned behavior...you don't born with knowledge of such a wedding, but, hell, who we are is a function of both, your own personal nature and how our experiences have shaped us..in the end we all respond to the same stimulus in different ways anyway, right?

Still, my priority with a woman will be, if we're both happy with each other, the marriage thing is not as deep. If she's always dreamed of one, I'll really enjoy the experience. If I end up with a misombre-type-minded woman, it's all good! You know I like the traveling thing too!

Freds

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