thanks so much. I've talked to my shrink about my jealousy issues. And i agree its definatly something i need to work on. If anyone knows anything i can do to help with my jealousy it would be greatly appreciated... such as like books or sites or anything. I checked the last log in date... he changed it to "single" today on march 8th... so i know it was recent. It makes me really really nervous and now i feel like i have a REASON to not trust him. I feel like... since he thinks im not looking at the site... he has this new rein to live an entirely different lifestyle aside from me... We live 1.5 hours away from each other... and i have no idea what kind of life he lives when im not there because i only see him during the weekends. One of the gurls on this site lives in New Jersey. She has on her page something about my guy being from ohio... and how that hawthorne heights song "ohio is for lovers" is ironic... and he's going to the bamboozle fest which is also in New Jersey. I guess im afraid that they'll hook up and she'll steal my man... i just dont want to lose him . Any further advice would be great...