Quit spying on him otherwise the choice will be taken away from you and he will leave you. Relax and work on your own personal issues.

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"When I was 4 years old, they tried to test my IQ.
They showed me this picture of 3 oranges and a
pear. They asked me which one was different and
did not belong. They taught me different was
wrong."
- Ani DiFranco -