Love Forum - Online Relationship Discussion - View Single Post

BlackRose · #3 (**permalink**) 30-03-05, 02:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by abercromqt20

try doing what i do. when you get a really good idea, write it down. save them. don't just use it because it's there.

This is the best advice for this situation.

Quote:

Originally Posted by xareon

Hello everyone,

I love to make my girlfriend feel special, I get her flowers at least twice a month sometimes more. Recently someone made me realize something I knew all along but was kinda ignoring, that getting flowers too much can desensitize someone and make it not so special anymore. I don't think this has happened too much yet as I do take a break in between flower giving, but I will have to be more careful in the future.

My question is: Is romance in general like this? I find that I am very creative in love and with romance, I don't like to be conceited or anything but I do know that I have come up with some very romantic ideas and I will probably always have that ability... I LOVE making my girlfriend happy and that I think is my inspiration. So... is doing something special the same as getting her flowers in regards to desensitizing her? For example, if I get her flowers one day and then a few days later I get a surge of inspiration and write her a poem, and then a week later fill her car with balloons... is that too much? Should I try to space it out a little more? Maybe keep a few cards up my sleeve? If I do something special other than get her flowers do you think the wait time should be the exact same as getting her more flowers? I've been with this girl for 8 months now and I'm still getting ideas on almost a daily basis so I'm fairly certain I won't ever run out, so the question is, how often do I act on those ideas?

Anyways, thank you for your advice as usual.
Tennyson

I think what you do for her is sweet, but you are overdoing it. I mean, if you want to write her a cute little note and leave it on her car, or write a poem for her, then great. I wish guys would do this for me. I've only had one guy who ever did anything like that for me and I really miss it. Just keep it spontaneous. Don't let it be expected of you. Just do something randomly. Don't even do it every month. One month you can do two things and then don't do anything like that for a while and then surprise her again with another thing down the road. Just don't let her take it for granted. Then it's no longer sweet and romantic. I give you lots of credit though. Most men don't put any effort like this into their relationships. One of your main concerns is the happiness of your partner and that is very kool. You definitely seem like a great guy. Maybe you should give some of the guys on here a few pointers for their girlfriends. Post some of your romantic ideas. They wont admit to it, but I am sure they could use the help and I know they will appreciate it.