Originally Posted by nomas
I guess that's what I was trying to get at with this whole thread. It's a radical, yet logical way to look at a relationship I guess. No contracts signed..no rules..hell, I guess by definition there's no word for it. I guess it would confuse people for someone in one such relationship to say "I have a girlfriend or bofriend" but s/he's out with some other dude/girl right now...but s/he'll be back to me tonight because I'm this person's preference.
But I doubt that will ever happen.
Freddie
It really boils down to jealousy a lot, you know. I was dating this guy for a month. Then, we ended it and fell into limbo, where we weren't dating, and we weren't just friends (like we were holding hand and stuff). But what hurts about it is that I knew I wasn't this person preference because we'd be walking over to his preference. I guess if you're going to be involved in something like that, you'd be happier if you're that person's preference. If not, it can hurt a lot to feel like you're being used. And I used to say that to my other friends- I have a boyfriend, but my boyfriend isn't here because he's with the love of his life, and he'll be back to me when he's had enough fun with her. (And how can you ever have enough fun with your preference?)
People's reaction would be "girl, you're crazy."
So now, we're just friends- and even as friends, he still put me on stand-by mode for when his preference calls him out.