Originally Posted by Only-virgins
I DONT WANT A PERFECT GIRL! JUST A VIRGIN! . Why is virginity combined with perfection? I am sure there is plunty other flaws. I dont even consider it a flaw. Just consider it as something that bothers me. I am sure there is "great relationships" with those people but to bad I wouldnt find it great because I would not be happy in one...and isnt it all about happiness at the end? I cant speak for those who re-marry but I would never consider a person who has had a previous spouse...devorced or dead...I dont care.
Yes, you're right. Virginity is not perfection. I should've been more explicit in my analogy: a virgin girl may seek only a virgin boy. If that's what you want, then of course go for it! Duh, right? And yes, it is about happiness. We all have our non-negotiable criteria for a partner. For example, I could NEVER be with a (again, my personal definition) stupid partner. And I'm sure I would miss out on some great relationships w/certain people b/c of that. But I understand and have analyzed WHY this is what I want and why, both by knowing my own mind and doing the experiment (dating guys less intelligent than me). Hopefully you have done the same or you may be unnecessarily limiting yourself, is all.
I think that some people simply have a problem of your definition of not-virgin = slut. Most people (I think) think that being a "slut" has more to do with ATTITUDE towards sex than the actual act.