Ok. Here's the deal. Get yourself some good lube. Since it is her first time, you are going to have to ease her into it. This means using your fingers first. Start with one then go to two after a little while. Try three if you can. Most likey, if she is relaxed and you wait long enough, three will fit just fine. I reapeat though... USE LOTS OF LUBE!! After you ease her into it, switch over to your penis. Enter her slooooowly. Start off with slow movements inside of her. Don't break communication with her at all during all of this. Ask her how it feels. Make sure she is really enjoying it and not just doing it to make you happy. And yes, it is possible to orgasm from anal if you hit things just right. The wall that lies between the vagina and the anus is very thin so she will feel stimulation in her vagina while you are in her ass. I suggest you take her in an all fours position. Let her rest her upper body on a pillow if she wants so she is relaxed. As for the type of lube you two should use, it doesn't really matter. If you plan to use a condom, then a water based lube is important so you do not wear down the condom. KY or Astroglide are two very suitable choices. As for leaving her loose back there, it wont happen after the first time. She's been watching too much porn. The anus will only become "loose" if she starts shoving things that are too big in there. As long as you are an average sized guy in the penis department, she has nothing to worry about. If you follow the above steps, everything should return to normal a little bit after you pull out. I knw this was all pretty graphic, but I hope it helps you out. Let me know if you have any more questions or concerns. I will be glad to help you out. PM me if it's a personal issue. I don't mind answering there either. Good luck with your anal!

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