Yeah, well I just find it ridiculous now when a girl says "he should love me for who I am." Yes, he should, but can you really blame him if your 200 lb ass doesn't exactly make him hot? Would he have dated you if you looked that way in the first place? Probably not. If my bf gained that much weight, I would still totally love him, but I could honestly say I'd find him less attractive than before. That's not shallow, it's just human nature.