Illusional,

First off all theres no need for the language, at least i can stand up and admit i have a problem and want to treat the problem in order to keep my girlfriend. Secondly all i want is the best for my girlfriend, well i did until i realised that the best for is to let her be herself and i have to accept that she is who she is and to respect that. From self learning and talks with friends ive learnt that relationships arnt just 'DESTINED' to work from the start, you need to build on them and both work at it, if you dont they will fail. Im trying to build our relationship but obviously in the wrong way. I understand shes 17 and i now understand that she needs freedom and support.

I dont want to loose her becasue ive been cheated on befor, and it was awful, the pain wasn't nice. She wont leave me, and i know she loves me, but when the past follows you you cant help but to make sure it dont happen. I will lay off her now, and when she comes in from work tiered ill make her Dinner, and a drink and we will discuss our days together. I wish people could just understand though that i care , im not being selfish or an idiot im just doing what 'I' thinks best, when i understand now that its not.

She also nervous about talking to me about her problems and she never tells me what to do, thats probably becasue shes that used to hearing me give her 'BULLSHIT' wisdom that she feels shes hasn't the knowledge to tell me anything, i want her to get past that and be able to open up.

I love her to bits and will do anything to keep her, from today im going to be Open, Relaxed, Caring, Supportive and respect and accept her for who she is......My Girlfriend.


Thanx for the advice, Some people may take your tone a bit offensive Illusional.