1.)Because I love them and they love me.

- again, this is a valid statement of feelings, but not a reason. As you say, you love your pet too...

2.)It hurts to see them with someone else.

- OK, this is getting closer, but again, WHY does it hurt? What is it that you NEED that makes this hurt?

3.)Your supposed to be together as support as well.(kind of would suck when you are hurt in a hospital and your GF is out on a date with someone else)

- you don't think this about your parents, close friends, etc.... if they cared (and they could) they could still drop everything to be w/you. SO's have jobs, go away on trips, etc. and aren't always there at the drop of a hat...

4.)Why not is just as good of a question as to why.

- I completely agree. But I haven't heard any better explanations for "why not" either... this is just restating the question...

5.)If you ever have loved anyone you would not ask this question.
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this is an incorrect conclusion. You have no data to support this. I ask lots of questions that don't necessary reflect my PERSONAL beliefs... Its called stretching ones mind... :amused:

6.) Eventually people want to settle down..better example for kids and a better enviornment to grow up in.

- OK, I can relate. But, again, WHY does it matter, except to conform to mainstream societal values... some cultures castrate females & they think this is perfectly reasonable...

7.)Did I mention it hurts?...cause it hurts like hell when it comes to a friday night and your loved one is busy enjoying someone elses company.

- again, this is getting closer, I think... but WHY does it hurt, WHAT do we need so badly from another that we lack within ourselves...
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I think that deep down we need to feel ownership/control over another person to make up for our own insecurities. I think this is a big source of tension in relationships, b/c you can never, of course, ever really control another person. I think if we were more secure in ourselves, and really understood who we are, ourselves (not defined by our relationship w/another person) that a lot of these problems we see on this forum would go away. Seems simple, but not really, I think. Still developing this idea, tho, so thought appreciated...