***update***

ok so i went over to talk to her and told her what i thought and explained that i thought the timing was odd. i asked her if it was (her backing off) becuz i told her it was gonna have to end. she said no it was something she'd been thinking about for a few days. i told her i didn't believe her and then i asked if she wasn't leaving would she still have backed off? she said probably but she might have given it more time. basically i told her in the end i didn't buy it and that if she was being truthful then it means all the stuff that's been going on between us over the last couple years makes me feel like i was being jerked around. (thru all this i didn't tell her i'd decided to go back to iowa which puts me within a couple hours of her)

i told her if she's being truthful then so be it.... that's life but i needed to get her out of my system then. she says "so we're not friends anymore?" i say "no that's not it. you know if you ever need me i'll be there, but i need time to get over you." she says' but you'll be out of my life.i don't wanna lose you completely" i say "for a lil while, but i'll be back in time." she says "you know that's not true." after a lil more of this i got up to leave.... as i open the door she suddenly says "i think it has more to do with me leaving than anything else." i then tell her that i'm going to back to iowa and we can give it a chance and see how it works. i go over to her an tell her "if things don't work that's life. but i don't want it to be cuz i was afraid or cuz i didn't try." we sat there in silence for awhile and i asked her what she was thinking. she said she didn't know. i then told her that i thought if she really believed what she was telling me in the beginning and it wasn't cuz she was leaving then she wouldn't have to think so hard about it. in the end i told her to stop being afraid..... i told her to decide what she wanted and to gimmie a call once she had. then i left.

unless she says otherwise i'm gonna back out of her life and try and get her outta my system......

what do you think of all this? and was she being honest with me in the beginning or was her "i think it has more to do with me leaving than anything else." line the more honest one?