From a guy's perspective, its a very frustrating situation to put yourself in. I am experiencing the same frustration with a girl I just recently met. Read my previous post. One....if I pursue a friendship, that will not stop her from seeing other people because your stuck with your friends cap on. Two....if one of us is more interested in the other, then its destined to fail. I can't pick up on her signals so I'm really trying hard to figure out what I'm supposed to do. We have touched on the topic of dating but I got the impression she wasn't interested so I immediately pursued a friendship with her. I hardly ever get to talk/email her so its going to be hard to figure out where any of this may all lead. The tension is very uncomfortable. My advise......and what sounds so easy for me to say.....cause I'm in your shoes but a guy.....would be to clear up the situation by just being honest with one another. What do you really want? Friendships are not bad......they can grow from there into a relationship. If you don't pursue a friendship, how will you ever get to know this person? I would pursue the friendship and see where it all leads. The worst thing that could happen is a friend out of the deal. I don't know your situation in full detail but it can cause many sleepless nights because your in a state of uncertainty. Honesty and being open with someone really goes a long way today. Keep me posted and good luck.