Money is not a petty issue; money - and how it is spent - says a lot about one's values. Your girlfriend wants to feel like you would like to spoil her (perhaps to boost the envy of her girlfriends), but does she also want to spoil you? I am pretty traditional as far as money/dating are concerned, but I also think that women ought to WANT to reciprocate on occasion. Does she do this? I am working on the assumption that you are NOT a cheapskate, so she sounds a bit like an immature, castrating and punitive female. Do you really want to spend time (much less money) on someone who can be so petty? (By the way, I am female, too.)