Ok let me make one thing clear... murky isnt good.
You say that it was never official that you guys were a couple... well hunny in a boys world.. if its not made official.. its not official. You cant just say well he kisses me so were a couple. A guy will let you know if he wants to be with you some way or another.
If he didnt make that clear somehow, you cant say that you are, cause thats only in your head you see?
Sounds like from what youve posted he thinks youre a really good friend and doesnt really want you for anything more than a f*ck buddy...really.
If I were you, I would drop all emotions and show him what a real friend is. Stop being so lovey and oh I love him. Love is something gained over time... lots and lots of time and understanding. If you had something real, he would be with you and not this other chick right?
Hunny youll know when youve found something real. Number one you need to be patient. Dont go looking for it just wait for it to happen. Number two just be yourself and always always follow your gut. Three, learn to love yourself first