Equa, it sounds as if you've decided. I completely agree w/Prodigal. Best wishes.

Lilwing, you can't "take" someone away from a relationship that is happy. This is for sure. We are all talking about the possibility that there is more b/t Equa & his lady. Sometimes, relationships need a little "push" from one partner, esp if the other partner is "stuck". Or not completely aware of the depth of the other partner's feeling...

Prodigal, I knew you were a guy, so don't worry. I do find your name choice interesting... an only child perhaps?