Originally Posted by Fyesteema4
When I met my boyfriend he was living with his parents. He has lived on his own before but had moved back in to save money. His parents gave him a time to move out by and he was looking for a place when he lost his job. Oh, and by the way, he doesn't have his license, or a car, or a cell phone! I have actually gone apartment shopping for him, yet he doesn't follow up. He can also get his license back by paying a reinstatement fee, but he hasn't. He's looking for a job now, but everything is going so slow, and he doesn't want/isn't taking my help. I want to be supportive but I don't want a loser boyfriend. What should I do and what do I say to him???
Hi Fye-
It's great that you're want to be supportive, but sometimes, it's just better for him to try and do it on his own. TO him, it may seem more like you're nagging him, and he may feel a bit resentful that you're acting like his mother and not his girlfriend.
Tell him that it bothers you that he's not doing these things. Heck, if you feel that you don't want to be with a loser boyfriend, then let him know that (without using the word "loser" of course.) You don't want to get into name-calling because that can get ugly.
Or you can just keep quiet with a little "encouragement" here and there.