Originally Posted by shh!
I think you missed the part where it was suggested that once you have a kid, it is not about YOU and what makes YOU feel good anymore. It is all about what is good for the BABY. Just because you love a baby doesn't mean you are good for one.
(This does not imply in any way, artyemi, that this advice applies to your situation. It is a generality.)
Shh! NO, it totally applies. Just because I love my son doesn't mean that I am good for one. I could have been a much better mother had I waited.
It's exactly why I'm saying that those two really should look at all options and what they want in their future. They shouldn't feel that because they had sex, they should have a kid for self-punishment. They should have a son because they are ready and are able to provide for the child, while at the same time, doing what is best for them.
It's a silly notion to think "oh, well, we had sex now we have to live with the consequence."