Thank you all again, even you FRASBEE, though very rudely and sarcastically, for teaching me how to use a forum, this being my first time I didnt know the rules. I just wrote the woman and told her in a very nice way that I need to back off from this relationship right now as I'm afraid its going to hurt me very deeply and that I am now aware that she is going through a lot more than i had previously realized (menopause and all) and that i will not apologize anymore or even talk about the previous night sex thing, and that I wont let her talk down to me anymore. I also told her that when she feels better and more in control to write me and we can talk if she wants to continue this relationship. I hope I did the right thing here. It will be hard to not talk to her but I have to be strong.Thanks for all your advice everyone you really helped me out. UPDRAFT, I would love to talk to you sometime you seem like a great person and are in the same kinda relationship I am. Thanks all. D