Hi Hussain;

Ok here goes: "when my ability to have children decreases or ceases.....that better>??

He is independent in many ways but does like to be waited on (ie: meals)

The hotel and car sex have been the only way we could be intimate (we both lived at our parents houses)....so yes I want to grow in the relationship and see if he and I can live together.

I asked him awhile ago about the whole kids and marriage idea and he admitted he wasnt at that stage yet...but that he wants to be long-term with me...he sees us together a long time....so Im a bit confused as to why he wont commit to me..do many men do this>?? I mean I am puzzled as to why a man would say to me "Do you want to get married...??" in a grocery store while we where on a 3-day vacation!!! And when I bring up the issue he balks. Very confusing to say the least.

I think he knows I will not be his mother/maid with benefits...wouldnt have the time anyway...

About him loving his mom thats great im not against that at all...she is a good woman I just dont want him to compare me to her later on thats all. My ex-hub did this constantly and it wore me down....

Thanks for taking the time to reply Hussain.