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Off2College
13-06-06, 08:21 AM
Be honest, most of us are shallow to some degree so don't give the "ohh i'm not that shallow" excuse.

1. looks - i'm more into the cute look than the hot blonde look. But from what i've seen so far in life, i can't go beyond friends if the looks department isn't there.

2. affection/personality - for me, personality goes hand in hand with affection. I love girls who give you hugs and pats and other such displays of affection. A big thing is that she should also make me feel wanted, keep me company.

3. Interests - i don't care at all if she doesn't have the same interests as i do, as long as she doesn't smoke or do drugs.

4. intelligence/accomplishments - would be a big bonus, although doesn't have to be einstein smart.

King Zarathu
13-06-06, 08:36 AM
I don't look for anything. If I feel attraction, THEN I start looking. :) And I look for psychological problems more than anything else.

vashti
13-06-06, 09:21 AM
I don't look for anything. If I feel attraction, THEN I start looking. :) And I look for psychological problems more than anything else.

Why? Are you attracted to screwed up girls skaterboy? :P

NeoSeminole
13-06-06, 09:26 AM
I look for a girl who is nice and mature (very simple yet elusive). Looks aren't a big deal to me as long as she's not ugly.

dreamer101
13-06-06, 09:39 AM
I don't look for anything. If I feel attraction, THEN I start looking. :) And I look for psychological problems more than anything else.

[EDIT] deteled my smart ass comment (thought you were joking) ...

King Zarathu
13-06-06, 10:09 AM
Why? Are you attracted to screwed up girls skaterboy? :P
YES!!!!!

I've only been attracted to the most ****ed up people... It sucks. That's why I'm just taking a step back. Two days ago my therapist told me I'm finally an "adaptive, psychologically healthy person" which made me happy. I don't have to see him anymore.

w00t.

vashti
13-06-06, 11:39 AM
I'm glad you are labeled "healthy", but attraction to nut cases is also characteristic of the very young. YOu probably would have outgrown this, even without a therapist.

Neo - what makes someone "ugly" to you? I really haven't seen all that many truly ugly people. Usually a person has at least one redeeming quality...

King Zarathu
13-06-06, 01:19 PM
I'm glad you are labeled "healthy", but attraction to nut cases is also characteristic of the very young. YOu probably would have outgrown this, even without a therapist.
Characteristics of the very young, you say... Around what age do people typically grow out of this? I fear I am still attracted to ****tards--you remember that one girl (You can see links before reply) that I liked? Well, I didn't tell you guys this, but she is one of the most psychologically ****ed up people I know. :P



YOu probably

haha - boy I am a crappy typist!!
This is another one of those crazy moments in which I completely and totally agree with you.

:)

Zero Interrupt
14-06-06, 10:54 PM
YES!!!!!

I've only been attracted to the most ****ed up people... It sucks. That's why I'm just taking a step back. Two days ago my therapist told me I'm finally an "adaptive, psychologically healthy person" which made me happy. I don't have to see him anymore.

w00t.


Hello, internet brother.

Every girl I've dated has been ****ed in the head. Maybe it's a Texas thing, everyone else thinks we're crazy, maybe, I say, maybe, they just might be right.

I think it's because I'm attracted to stronger women. Emotionally stronger, but my judgement is skewed, and sometimes I get into mental darwinism or something, thinking a woman who's screwed up will have become stronger for her trials. Dunno.

I like women that are smarter than me. That is a very low benchmark.

I like brunettes. Dunno why, just prefer brunettes, generally.

But the biggest thing is the eyes. The eyes have to be right, and there's no way to describe that, really, but I can just about look in a woman's eyes for the first time and tell if I could fall for her.

King Zarathu
14-06-06, 11:00 PM
But the biggest thing is the eyes. The eyes have to be right, and there's no way to describe that, really, but I can just about look in a woman's eyes for the first time and tell if I could fall for her.
Oh my ****ing God... I think I found a clone of myself.

Yes! I know that... that "ability." You can just look into her eyes and it's like you're looking at her soul. I know what you're talking about. Love that shit.


Anyway, this is different. It seems that I've encountered somebody in this state who has intelligence. Oh, how my life has changed... ;)


I like brunettes. Dunno why, just prefer brunettes, generally.
Yep. Blondes typically have really thin hair and it's ****ing gross.


I like women that are smarter than me. That is a very low benchmark.
Heh, I used to be that way until I realized they didn't exist. I'm so arrogant...


I think it's because I'm attracted to stronger women.
Interesting! I'm not so sure about that right now, I just got out of a really crazy part of my life, so I'm not sure. I used to be attracted to helpless, weak females. Probably because it was easier to use them. Oh well, that's the past...


I have no idea why I went from the bottom up, but I did.

Zero Interrupt
14-06-06, 11:47 PM
Anyway, this is different. It seems that I've encountered somebody in this state who has intelligence. Oh, how my life has changed... ;)

Hehe yes, brother in arms, stay the course. We shall conquer this land yet.

King Zarathu
15-06-06, 12:01 AM
What city are you in?

Zero Interrupt
15-06-06, 12:25 AM
Small town called Carthage. Couple hours.... Northeast of Dallas, I think it is. I'm lousy with maps. Right on the border to Louisiana. A friend of mine's living in Dallas now, going to school. He just accepted a paid internship with a video game software company there.

King Zarathu
15-06-06, 06:37 AM
Hah! How ironic... I'm a programmer too, getting into game development later on.

Off2College
18-06-06, 10:18 AM
i'd take blondes over brunettes over redheads over blackheads

blauw
19-06-06, 01:46 AM
Dating a girl now for about a month ...
and I have no clue what i'm so wanna be with here all the time ...

what could it be ?

blacksun
24-06-06, 04:26 PM
Well lets see:
You got the standard stuff:
In shape (not too fat or skiny)
Face not ugly (I dont know how to say it in a nice way)

Then you got everything else:
Respects herself and her body (kind of goes with inshape stuff but also piercing and tatoos are a big turn off)
Smart: I like girls that i can actually have an intelegent conversation with, I find that as important as her looks
Funny: Girls that are funny are few and far between, but if you can find one youve got the jackpot
Similar interests: Those are so rare for me that its not even realisitic (I like math and science that eliminates like 90% of women right there)
Nice: That one is hard to describe, some girls are just nice to everyone I really like that, but in my expeirence it tends to come with some other unwanted qualities plus it might make a relationship hard, unless your alrite with her being "nice" to every guy she meets.

anhmaimaiyeuvn
16-07-06, 05:04 AM
I'm with you Off2college more or less.

The most important thing for me is "she should also make me feel wanted,"
because I believe totally that "love is reciprocal."

Unless it's Mother Theresa...who loves you even if you don't show. Though this is a different kind of love...we all go through this once a while, I hope.

Denthrare
17-07-06, 12:08 AM
But the biggest thing is the eyes. The eyes have to be right, and there's no way to describe that, really, but I can just about look in a woman's eyes for the first time and tell if I could fall for her.

YES! It is all about the eyes. I don't intend to imply, of course, that I would fall in love with a female incarnation of Satan with the intelligence of a cooked sausage and beautiful eyes (as I hope no one would); but I believe the old saying that "eyes are windows through which to look upon the soul" or something like that.

Then again, I'm one of those crazy people who believes that love is not an emotion, but a connection between souls. You can look into someone's eyes and see so much more than their body, facial features, personality, or their smile. Sure, all that stuff matters (some parts more than others), but when it comes to love, it really comes down to the eyes for me. You can see whether or not she loves you through them; that's a blessing to see. I've seen it maybe twice, and both times it filled my heart with joy.

(I just woke up from getting maybe two hours of sleep, so if I ramble and seem irrational, I apologise)

-Z

Junket
17-07-06, 12:11 AM
Then again, I'm one of those crazy people who believes that love is not an emotion, but a connection between souls.
You're right man...

You are crazy.

Tiay
17-07-06, 12:22 AM
my therapist told me I'm finally an "adaptive, psychologically healthy person"

yay you, Zarathu ^.^ that's great. :)
(edit: not sarcasm)

Denthrare
17-07-06, 12:48 AM
You're right man...

You are crazy.

Probably certifiably.

But that's my belief, and I'm sticking with it.

-Z

Junket
17-07-06, 02:13 AM
Probably certifiably.

But that's my belief, and I'm sticking with it.

-Z
You hold your ground without feelin' the need to explain yourself.

I'm startin' to like this guy.

Still crazy though.

BlackiesHD
17-07-06, 07:11 AM
Be honest, most of us are shallow to some degree so don't give the "ohh i'm not that shallow" excuse.

1. looks - i'm more into the cute look than the hot blonde look. But from what i've seen so far in life, i can't go beyond friends if the looks department isn't there.


2. affection/personality - for me, personality goes hand in hand with affection. I love girls who give you hugs and pats and other such displays of affection. A big thing is that she should also make me feel wanted, keep me company.

3. Interests - i don't care at all if she doesn't have the same interests as i do, as long as she doesn't smoke or do drugs.

4. intelligence/accomplishments - would be a big bonus, although doesn't have to be einstein smart.


I go FAR more for 'cute' (a very subjective term) than pretty. The girl I met last night might be considered plain or even a bit ugly by some but to me she was smoking hot. Great little body, brown hair, I couldn't sleep all night thinking about her. Can't wait to call her tommorrow.

Funny what I do find attractive. Real boobs please, no matter how small. Style of dress, Levi's and a tank top are just fine when worn right. Tasteful jewerly, not too much. I'm real big on well groomed nails too, both hands and feet.

Personality is EVERYTHING. I agree with #2 totally. And no game playing! 'I want you, you want me? Great, we're together.' Attitude can last forever, looks don't.

As far as #3, I actually prefer a girl that smokes cigs, drinks (ONLY a bit) and maybe even smokes a little pot. Nothing else though! But that's just me.

Oh yeah, and a sense of humor! If I tell a one minute joke I don't want to have to spend ten minutes explaining it. Major turn-off.

SquareWheel
18-07-06, 07:10 AM
I think I have an Amazon fetish. I'm attracted to strong, bold, confident women. Maybe even a little dangerous. Catherine Trammell from Basic Instinct, the White Witch from Chronicles of Narnia... my kind of ladies. :D

In looks, I prefer short hair (I've always thought long hair looked "girlish", while short hair looks more sophisticated to me), and especially darker hair and complexion.

Attitude: Bold, brazen, experienced, sexually predacious, raunchy! The more flagrant and aggressive, the better. I seem to be fairly uinque this way, so many guys seem to only want virgins...

itsmeyesitis
22-07-06, 09:08 AM
sex.
cute face
not fat
easy to talk to

King Zarathu
22-07-06, 01:02 PM
yay you, Zarathu ^.^ that's great. :)
(edit: not sarcasm)
Thank you dear. :D


Then again, I'm one of those crazy people who believes that love is not an emotion, but a connection between souls. You can look into someone's eyes and see so much more than their body, facial features, personality, or their smile.
Yes! I'm also an extremely spiritual person. Sometimes, I feel so ashamed of a person when I look into their eyes because I'm looking.. and I'm going further, and further in... And then it hits me. "You, mademoiselle, are a ****ing idiot with no soul." And then I just can't talk to the bitch anymore.

Junket
22-07-06, 02:17 PM
I no longer provide much of an outline as to what I "look" for.

There are specific traits I no doubt find attractive.

However attraction tends to blind you of what they don't have and encourage you to focus on what they do have.

Denthrare
22-07-06, 03:22 PM
sex.


I am genuinely disturbed that so many people inside and outside this forum believe that sex is required for a good relationship. In my opinion (which I am sure I will take fire for, but which I am prepared to defend with conviction), love comes before sex in any situation, and sex is not necessary to make a romantic relationship sucessful. What has love come to, when it becomes more of a physical connection than an emotional one? It simultaneously saddens and sickens me.


Yes! I'm also an extremely spiritual person. Sometimes, I feel so ashamed of a person when I look into their eyes because I'm looking.. and I'm going further, and further in... And then it hits me. "You, mademoiselle, are a ****ing idiot with no soul." And then I just can't talk to the bitch anymore.


I have done the same sort of thing by looking into someone's eyes. Luckily for me, however, most of my experiences with that kind of "soul viewing" have been positive, and I end up realizing that a person's soul is more wonderful and deep than I had known before.


I no longer provide much of an outline as to what I "look" for.

There are specific traits I no doubt find attractive.

However attraction tends to blind you of what they don't have and encourage you to focus on what they do have.


Ladies and gentlemen, words this wise deserve a bit of recognition. I believe it was the Rabbi Julius Gordon who once said that "Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less."

*Golf clap for Frasbee*

-Z

King Zarathu
22-07-06, 03:35 PM
I have done the same sort of thing by looking into someone's eyes. Luckily for me, however, most of my experiences with that kind of "soul viewing" have been positive, and I end up realizing that a person's soul is more wonderful and deep than I had known before.
I need to find more people like that. It seems that the only people in Texas are ****ing idiots.

Denthrare
22-07-06, 03:44 PM
I need to find more people like that. It seems that the only people in Texas are ****ing idiots.

Hopefully not. Dallas was not good area for me girl-wise when I lived there either. What part are you in? I was near DFW, in a town called Colleyville.

It really pisses me off when I do find a girl with a quality body, mind, and soul... and then she dumps me for one of my friends.

It's happened... over five times.

So I suppose I could agree with your statement about people in Texas...

-Z

King Zarathu
22-07-06, 05:51 PM
I live in Dallas too. I hate the people here, so I resort to a long-distance relationship.

And the women? Pass.

TheSab
26-07-06, 03:49 PM
Cute
Same music taste (must like my favorite band a lot)
funny
smart
looks after me and tells me what to do (sad yes but i like the baby roll :p)
Pale skin
pretty eyes
slim
Size B breasts.

gartlas
14-10-07, 10:56 AM
I dont care if shes not super attractive,as long as she isnt actually ugly.she has to be affectionate and also intelligent,she has to be a good friend and also quite flirty,yet subtle.she also has to be the kind of person that isnt stuck up at all and can give u a look that makes ur insides turn to jelly;and knows shes doing it.that kind of person that is really special

DoesntMatter
14-10-07, 12:24 PM
Damn you people are all so picky

GrkScorp
14-10-07, 12:40 PM
Be honest, most of us are shallow to some degree so don't give the "ohh i'm not that shallow" excuse.

To be honest, i've thought about this a great deal.. and I can't quite put my finger on the whole picture..

I think the phenomenon which we are seeing is the evolution of the male population. Just decades ago, men were very simple creatures, very easy to please, and very easy to attract. But as time goes on, men are looking for more things in women; and women are having a tough time dealing with their own (picky) poison.

1. Confidence. I have to say this is the primary factor in my attraction to a person. It comes out in many different ways (clothes, posture, tone of voice, charisma, ability to engage in conversation, degree of physical contact, etc.) When a woman is confident (truly confident), it's very sexy.

2. Looks. If you have the looks, but no confidence; (goodbye). If you have the confidence, but no looks, then there isn't a (hello) to begin with. Looks are very important obviously. It's natures way of telling you (this one looks like she has good genes to pass along to Jr.) or (stay away from this one, I have no idea how her parents were able to procreate, maybe she was a mutation). Now, nobody has to be SUPER hot, or nearly perfect. But, ugly is not going to happen. There has to be some degree of attractiveness in a person. Some easy tips for women to work with; (1. stop eating and start working out; 2. start dressing like a woman, not like a nun but not like a whore either, both extreames are equally as bad)

3. Smarts. Now, i've met some very good-looking confident women; and maybe when I was younger, that would have been fine. But I think for men over the age of i'd say 18-20, you should start looking for a more refined girl. No, she doesn't have to be going for her Ph.D or majoring in (Biochemistry, Computer Science, Math, Physics, etc.); but please, (Communications & Media Studies?) what are you going to do with that? Think about it. If you're looking for someone, there's going to be more to the relationship than sex. If there isn't, then it's not going to work. So, make sure there's something interesting she can offer. I'm very attracted to art types (Art, Art History, Music, English). I also like a woman who has some understanding about the world (Economics, History, Philosophy).

4. The other "Smarts". Great, some women have a 4.0 GPA, but can't understand people to save thier life. It's great if your model girlfriend is a walking library, but is she human? Call it personality, call it whatever you want, but there are human elements which a woman must have to her. Happy, conent, gentile, caring, funny, nice, compassionate, understanding, witty, etc.

5. Similarity. Now, if you have SO much in common with the other person that your conversation sounds like (omg, your last name is Smith? mine too! my mom left my dad when i was 7 and I never saw my dad and my older brother again. Really? that's funny, because my mom left when I was 12 and I never saw her or my sister again; wow we have so much in common!).. RUN... anyway, sure, you can't be clones, but you can't be total opposites either. If you don't like movies, and she doesn't like plays/opera, than what will you do? You need to have some things in common, not everything, but some things. Like music, maybe she can play the violin, and you can play the piano, and together, you can write music on your free time. Sounds gay? Ok fine, what about cooking? gardening? hiking? camping? snowboarding? tv? there's got to be something!!!

I think that's pretty much it.. that are the major items.. I mean.. if all those 5 items are there in the first 30mins of conversation.. (an interesting/attractive) person can quickly turn into a number on my phone i can't wait to call the next day.

miSSleepy
14-10-07, 01:10 PM
During the last year I've gathered that, yes, looks are important (not the be all end all, but still significant) in whether people strike up a relationship or even start talking.

The person doesn't have to be stunning, but they shouldn't be ugly. It's the way we were biologically programmed, so current research says.

Yet why is it that I see so many downright ugly people in relationships, with people who may not be so ugly themselves? I've seen morbidly obese people, people who don't even care about hygiene, let alone appearance ... in relationships, even marriage, even with kids?

In highschool I was horrified when this obese, very ugly girl - who was a bitch to boot (she was mean to people, stole, lied, always angry) lost her virginity before me (she got pregnant so she wasn't lying this time). I mean, it's stupid now, but that's just an example.

gartlas
15-10-07, 01:11 AM
In highschool I was horrified when this obese, very ugly girl - who was a bitch to boot (she was mean to people, stole, lied, always angry) lost her virginity before me (she got pregnant so she wasn't lying this time). I mean, it's stupid now, but that's just an example.


she probably drugged the guy..... or threatened to beat him up

Tiay
15-10-07, 01:28 AM
or maybe her and whoever the guy was deserved each other. or maybe the guy was just desperate to rid himself of his virginity.

anyway, the fact that she lost her virginity before you isn't a bad thing. it's not like it's a race. .. right? 'cos if it is, I didn't really do so well.

gartlas
15-10-07, 01:34 AM
or

anyway, the fact that she lost her virginity before you isn't a bad thing. it's not like it's a race. .. right? 'cos if it is, I didn't really do so well.


oh bugger in that case I think I already lost