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nebulachic
20-08-06, 05:04 AM
I was with my b/f last night. He had his arm around me while we were listening to a band and he all of a sudden said "You're my bud."

What does this mean to a guy? I've been questioning lately if he wants to downgrade our relationship to just friends.

If you were to say it to a girl what would it mean?

Gigabitch
20-08-06, 05:35 AM
WTF? I take back what I said before about him learning to think before speaking. He is the ****ing King of the Injudicious Remark.

Was he stoned out of his mind at the time? Is he Matthew McConaughey?

You do NOT call your girlfriend your "bud".

Venacava
20-08-06, 06:36 AM
Yeah I'd have to say I would be pretty pissed off. I don't know what it means though.

King Zarathu
20-08-06, 08:51 AM
Well, since you're asking.... I don't think he meant it that way, it was probably just a casual friendly remark that you shouldn't overreact to. Let him know that you found it inappropriate and that it's bothering you, and it should be fine.

Chill out.

GrkScorp
20-08-06, 10:54 AM
Yup, i agree.. my girl-friend calls me her "best friend" all the time..

Do i get upset?? no.. because I feel the same way..

In the end, "bud" sums it up.. it's not downgrading.. in fact, it's upgrading..

think about it.. what is your relationship.. i mean... what are you to one another?

Sexual Partners, Dating Partners, maybe even Economic Partners, depending where you are in your life...

but.. why not just get an escort?? and hire an accountant or someone with an MBA to spend the rest of your life with???

No.. because the two of you have reached a little bit higher than that..

the two of you are now really good friends... "buds"

u can tell eachother anything, not afraid of the other person judging you.. you can just relax with eachother, have fun.. whatever..

You've reached a place where you can spend the rest of your life together, and grow old together...

kind of like Ben Afleck and Matt Damon :upset:

seriously though.. let's not talk about Hollywood couples, but you know those couples which are just bf/gf or husband and wife... but not really "buds"..

:tough:

so.. take it from a guy (no pun intended).. being someone's bud is never a bad thing, being your bf's bud is definately not a bad thing..

:french:

vashti
20-08-06, 11:28 AM
Your boyfriend is a dumb ass. When you know someone is a dumb ass, then expecting him to behave any differently than a dumb ass is asking to be disappointed.

GrkScorp
20-08-06, 11:34 AM
lol.. ahmen to that.. lol..

vashti
20-08-06, 11:39 AM
You ought to read some of her many threads about this guy.

GrkScorp
20-08-06, 11:40 AM
really? as smart as a brick huh?

hey vash.. look.. i just want to say that i'm sorry about the past couple of threads that we've had our clashes at..

i know we see things differently, and have different opinions on some issues.. but in the end, i know we're both nice and civilized people, and i just want you to know that i do not hold any hostile feelings towards you, and that i'd really like to just be friends..

what do you say?

vashti
20-08-06, 11:46 AM
I don't carry grudges. I am up for burying the hatchet, but let's not discuss politics, OK?

King Zarathu
20-08-06, 12:19 PM
AYou can see links before reply GrkScorp, go give her a hug.. and squeeze her ass, she likes it.

Junket
20-08-06, 01:51 PM
He's a dumbass?

Yeah, I can agree with that.

But this Nebulachic seems like a bit of a dumbass too...

King Zarathu
20-08-06, 03:43 PM
But this Nebulachic seems like a bit of a dumbass too...
Touché, sir.

misombra
20-08-06, 08:34 PM
your boyfriend doesn't want a girlfriend. he wants sex. sorry.

derm
20-08-06, 10:48 PM
I was with my b/f last night. He had his arm around me while we were listening to a band and he all of a sudden said "You're my bud."

What does this mean to a guy? I've been questioning lately if he wants to downgrade our relationship to just friends.

If you were to say it to a girl what would it mean?



Quiet the opposite....... I think he's fallin in love with you

Junket
21-08-06, 12:50 AM
Quiet the opposite....... I think he's fallin in love with you

And that's why it's best you hush up.

Venacava
21-08-06, 07:44 AM
Quiet the opposite....... I think he's fallin in love with you

Seriously? Who would have thought.

Ellynn
22-08-06, 03:14 AM
Are you sure your actually in a relationship? Sounds like FWB to me, at least on his part.

derm
22-08-06, 07:43 AM
Quiet the opposite....... I think he's fallin in love with you

I WAS actually serious!

I am guilty of saying something similar to a girl who I was falling for........friendship is an important part of love remember.

blue toxin
22-08-06, 07:48 AM
It depends on the personality of the person. My girlfriend and I say that kind of stuff all the time. She's called me her bud already, called me her friend. Sometimes she'll look at me and go "I kinda like ya" and shit like that.

I don't see as though it's a big deal, but seeing as though my girlfriend and I both have interesting senses of humor, we can joke around like that without second guessing the true love of our relationship.

Gigabitch
22-08-06, 09:50 AM
Considering nebulachick's situation, I don't think it was a good sign.

I wouldn't like it if a guy I wanted called me "bud".

xwfuro
22-08-06, 12:28 PM
when the breakdown comes in throw his arm off of you and start throw them bows. then after the show just say "buddies for life"

Junket
22-08-06, 01:57 PM
I WAS actually serious!

I am guilty of saying something similar to a girl who I was falling for........friendship is an important part of love remember.

And that's why you should hush up.

derm
22-08-06, 07:09 PM
And that's why you should hush up.

More of a chance of hell freezing over MATE :mad:

BFTrick
23-08-06, 04:50 AM
To answer the origional question.

No it doesnt mean anything for sure. It doesnt mean he only thinks of you as a friend. I have called my gf a bud before (and she didnt like it). Just depends on what i heard in TV that day, what someone else called me, whatever is fresh in my mind. Dont throw something away because of a miscommunication.

Gigabitch
23-08-06, 06:04 AM
Just depends on what i heard in TV that day, what someone else called me, whatever is fresh in my mind. Dont throw something away because of a miscommunication.

Have you ever called someone your "Hot Love Pancake"?

Junket
23-08-06, 08:01 AM
Have you ever called someone your "Hot Love Pancake"?

Why, I have in fact been dubbed a "Hot Love Pancake".

I still don't know what it means.

I do love my pancakes hot though.

King Zarathu
23-08-06, 12:11 PM
Man, I still haven't gotten any kind of promotion whatsoever. The people in charge ****ing suck. I could save you guys a countless number of seconds by getting rid of spam specifically before the spammers post it. Don't ask me how, I just can. That's right.

Junket
23-08-06, 12:30 PM
Man, I still haven't gotten any kind of promotion whatsoever. The people in charge ****ing suck. I could save you guys a countless number of seconds by getting rid of spam specifically before the spammers post it. Don't ask me how, I just can. That's right.

The pancake promotion don't mean shit.

And I'm right there with you on most cases, too often I'm left with nothing but "If only I were mod..."

vashti
23-08-06, 12:54 PM
Man, I still haven't gotten any kind of promotion whatsoever. The people in charge ****ing suck. I could save you guys a countless number of seconds by getting rid of spam specifically before the spammers post it. Don't ask me how, I just can. That's right.

Here, have some pancakes: OOO

Junket
23-08-06, 01:06 PM
Here, have some pancakes: OOO

Vash...what's your day job?

King Zarathu
23-08-06, 07:32 PM
Vash...what's your day job?
She's a college girl, which makes her that much hotter. ;)

vashti
23-08-06, 09:37 PM
I am starting back to school next week, thank god. I am bored to death.

Junket
24-08-06, 12:29 AM
I am starting back to school next week, thank god. I am bored to death.

Seriously, I think you're on the forums more than I am.

vashti
24-08-06, 12:40 AM
Seriously, I think you're on the forums more than I am.


During the day, that is probably true, especially now that my kids have gone back to school.

ginger8love
24-08-06, 02:14 AM
Replying to original post... I seriously don't think he said "bud" in anyway to mislead u to think that the relationship was going down hill or anything like that. Instead, why don't u look at it in a more positive point of view. Wat i'm thinking is.. isn't it better to be double bonded instead of single?.. U guys are in a relationship.. gf and bf relationship but haven't u heard friends last forever.. and that's a different kind of relationship there.. i mean won't that mean it's even harder to break u guys apart?.. That's how i interpret the situation. I would be so happy if my bf called me that because i'm not only his gf but also his bestfriend.