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okapa
08-12-07, 09:13 PM
Hey peeps. I'm 15 years old and this is my first college year.

I'm one of those guys that doesn't want to go out with a girl he doesn't fancy (at the least). I have 3 girls trying to get me (that I'm aware of, at least) but I don't want them.

All my friends are starting to get girlfriends and it's a bit sad because they don't like them... except two guys, those were lucky and I am jealous of them, I'm not afraid of admiting, I wish I was that lucky.

I just can't support this pressure anymore. They are always saying why don't you pick that one, blah blah blah, you can do it... They just don't understand I don't want a girl like that... - I must be weird.

My best friend is dating a girl and he's after another one... If he wasn't such a trustworthy person for me and such a good friend, I wouldn't be his bestfriend anyways... He spents all the time with me, kisses her once a day just so he can feel ok with himself...

I've talked to him but he just says he doesn't care and that I should get one too...

I am being stupid, right?

Gigabitch
09-12-07, 12:36 AM
No, you are being particular. It's not that you're against girlfriends, just against wasting your time and someone else's. I believe that's called character.

TheKissPolice
09-12-07, 04:10 AM
dude,keep up the good work,just ignore the people who are pressuring you,this happened to me before,if you want a serious relationship,dont waste time on someone you do not like,you will end up regretting it when you finally meet the one you like,but there's nothing wrong with being friends with them.

automorphism
09-12-07, 04:37 AM
Perfectly normal! It only becomes a problem when you become one of those guys after an ideal woman that doesn't exist and you start rejecting women at first sight because their hair is a millimeter too long. Be choosy but not fastidious and demanding. Take your time...

Mish
10-12-07, 09:31 AM
I am being stupid, right?

There's nothing wrong with going out on dates. How will you know if they are not right for you if you don't date them? You don't need to be in a realtionship with them, just try em out and see if you're a match. If not then, there's no harm in letting go.

It's good experience.

nuevo
11-12-07, 01:24 AM
Don't waste your time if you don't like them.

What's the point?

I mean, If you like a girl, would you like her to pick you when she doesn't even care about you?, Then I will be reading your posts on the broken hearts forum.

"treat others as you would like to be treated"

UnderTheRose
16-12-07, 03:32 AM
There's nothing wrong with going out on dates. How will you know if they are not right for you if you don't date them? You don't need to be in a realtionship with them, just try em out and see if you're a match. If not then, there's no harm in letting go.

It's good experience.

If you think you could have fun with them, I don't mean sex, or wanting to get married, just going out and having a good time as friends, there is nothing wrong with going out with one or all of them as long as they are well aware that for you it's just for fun and you are not looking to be serious with them AT ALL.It's good to go out with people, like Mishanya said it's good experience.But if you don't think you can have fun with them, or you just don't want anything to do with them, it's not bad at all!!There is nothing wrong with having standards and sticking by them, no sense in wasting your time and hurting someone else's feelings!

Kiechi
16-12-07, 11:01 AM
15 and 1st college year???

Kromat
02-01-08, 10:00 AM
15 and 1st college year???

Ya, I was wondering If I read that read myself, guess since he's only 15 and probably
going to college, avoid settling down and just focus on your school work for the first couple of years.

Envy
02-01-08, 10:04 AM
It's cool if you don't want to get with someone. I have respect for people like you. Half the people I know from RL would just go out with a girl, or not even go out with her just to get her tongue in their mouth.

okapa
03-01-08, 08:49 PM
I don't get some girls, I met this girl at the new years eve party and we started talking to each other for a lot of time, we grew familiar like if we had known each other for some time. I didn't kiss her because I didn't feel I was ready yet but we slept in the same bed (for one person) and our lips met sometimes (no real kiss) and I got her number.

I wait until day 2 (I thought it was too early to call the same day) and she doesn't answer my text messages... Today I confirmed her cell number and it's correct... I just don't get it, it makes no sense. Not that I was really into her but it could lead to something...

Anyways, thanks for the support guys and have a great 2008 : )

Gigabitch
04-01-08, 12:52 AM
You should have kissed her. It was NYE, after all.

okapa
04-01-08, 01:25 AM
I just found out she has a crunch on some guy...

It doesn't hurt me or anything because I didn't like her like that but it's a bit weird for people to act like that... without alcohol...

Whatever.

Kromat
04-01-08, 10:21 AM
15 and you slept with her? and your afraid to kiss her?

Envy
04-01-08, 09:55 PM
15 and you slept with her? and your afraid to kiss her?

I think he means just sharing the bed to sleep in, not having sex, maybe I'm wrong.

okapa
04-01-08, 10:41 PM
You didn't understand, we didn't have sex, we just slept holding hands and stuff... I didn't have a sleeping bag so she offered and I accepted.

I wasn't afraid to kiss her, I just didn't feel I liked her enough to do that... Now that I look back I think I acted in my best interest, since she likes someone else and this way I didn't get attached...

It was fun anyways, so...

BrotherCanada
09-01-08, 03:53 AM
i'm with kromat, but dude just let it play itself out, there is no need to rush into things, you see even if your friends are getting girls that they don't like, it really deep down does nothing for them other than to say that they have a girlfriend, the time that you spend waiting for the RIGHT girl will make it that much more special when you do find her