Touch is comforting and also stimulating. Flirt by touching yourself lightly in a nonsexual, safe way. Primp or preen yourself, smoothing your hair or stroking your own hand, neck, face, or leg. Use an interesting trick based on the psychological principle of modeling -- touch yourself wherever you would like to focus attention or where you imagine the other person touching you.

Once you've become comfortable with each other, you can straighten his tie or her necklace, or brush a speck off the shoulder of his jacket... Advance to touching a body part: first covered parts, like the back or shoulder, then hair, and then exposed skin on "safe" areas like on the arm, hand, or cheek. Back off if the person winces or withdraws.


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