I think you've jumped too far ahead for DJ here.
Originally Posted by Wakeup
DJ, a safe word is used when you are in a BDSM relationship and the dynamic is based on some form of physical pain that the submissive partner gets off on.
I think what DJ is indicating is that his girl likes to be submissive. Play it up and test her out first...a little slap and tickle, see how she reacts. If she doesn't like it she'll tell you. Spank her a little bit, gradually bring up the heat - if she says stop forcefully, stop immediately. I totally agree with the hair pulling (yummy), try it out on her, she'll let you know if she doesn't like it. Physically tossing her around the bed is always a good manoeuver, forcing her into various positions. Try holding down her wrists, arms....and finally not for the faint hearted and only if you've got the green light and a safe signal; hand over the neck.
Have fun and play safe.
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