Would You sell out Your own Friend?

[vashti]

You are very young, and have not experienced what most of us have. I suppose most of us have learned, and probably the hard way, what you have yet to discover.

But no worries - you don't have to listen to our advice. No one is making you.

[Pettit-Papillon]

EVERYONE is DIFFERENT. That's my quote. And well,she did not cheat him with someone totally unknown,she has cheated him with her previous ex,because she was drunk and as You guys know when You're drunk the true feelings are coming out.And her prev. ex is just a ducking asshole,he used her to have later what to say to everyone.For me he is nothing.But it's another story.
Vashti, belive me,maybe I'm only 18 years old,but I've experienced more than You think,maybe even more than You have.It's just that I have simply faith in most of people,I just have to see a small light . Sometimes people can change,sometimes they need even 20 years for that.I have evidence for that in my own house.

[vashti]

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Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon

Vashti, belive me,maybe I'm only 18 years old,but I've experienced more than You think,maybe even more than You have..

I seriously doubt that, but I wonder: why you are asking for other people's opinions if you don't care to hear them?

[Pettit-Papillon]

I only asked You how would You behave.Just to know.It's something bad?But You started to selling Your advices to make me do something more.I've already done what I have to that's all.
You doubt it? You can,but You can't be sure because You simply don't know me.But it just would take me too long to explain my whole life that You could understand it.You think that if You've had numbers of relationships that it makes You wiser.I've went through so many bad situations since I was born, I was have had to grow up before I really started to be a child.But it's 5.30 in the morning,and I think I need to go sleep.So good night.

[IndiReloaded]

PP, if you don't want to hear other ppls opinions don't post your question on a public forum.

I wouldn't sell out anyone I call 'friend'. But I reserve that title for very special ppl in my life. Good friends are rarer than BFs or GFs. Anyone who I call friend would deserve my loyalty & would expect to hear a truth they needed to hear.

[Pettit-Papillon]

Opinion and advice = quite difference.
Ok , if Your friend would kill somebody would You still protect him?don't say it's different situation because people who are hurting because they have been cheated on ,feel more pain than those who are already dead. Besides You see many examples on this forum.
So if You think that not telling the truth is better than to tell it to someone who deserves it , so stop saying how BAD are cheaters bla bla bla ,because being quiet You help them.So You're kind a like them.bravo.
But ok it's Your way of thinking and it's ok.Maybe we have another point of view because of place we are living.I think so...
And I repeat I wanted opinions not advices.hello
If I want advice I will ask for it.
Ok I have one: how can I get sleep?I'm in exams-period and can barely sleep.No drugs.

[misombra]

i'm sure one of us has a pan we can hit you over the head with. put you right to sleep.

[Gigabitch]

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Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon

You should think if it's worth to be blind just in name of a friendship...

No, not blind. Just know when to keep your mouth shut.

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Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon

And I don't think her ex did something wrong.He just gave her another chance,against what other was saying.He just believed in her...

That's his problem. The issue here is that you ****ing ratted her out. YES, what she did was wrong, very wrong. This is something you should be taking up with her, not him. Yes, it absolutely sucks that she put you in the position of having to lie for her. I think what you should have told him was "Ask her yourself." You didn't have to tell him, and it didn't matter anyway, they were already broken up. You think you were doing him a favor, really? I think you did nobody a favor.

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Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon

It's just that I have simply faith in most of people,

Well, I hope you don't trust them not to sell you out, because you would deserve it.

I think cheating is disgusting and I would have a MAJOR problem with any of my friends if they were to do it, but I would never in a million years betray their trust by telling their ex about it.

[IndiReloaded]

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Originally Posted by misombra

i'm sure one of us has a pan we can hit you over the head with. put you right to sleep.

Might help dislodge some of those butterflies flitting around in that cranium, ya.

[misombra]

i feel a little bad for petite. i've been in a similar situation. i told my "friend" that her boyfriend tried to molest me and what i thought was the right thing to do turned into one of the most miserable, painful, and embarrassing situations of my life.

i think petite will learn a big lesson from this, when it's done.

[Illusional]

hrmm.... what i don't see is why you should get involved in your friend's problems that don't really concern her. she's not with this guy anymore, so i feel that the past should be left in the past. it's true that the truth will probably set both of them free, but that should be her right to tell it to him or not.

raverboy

[IndiReloaded]

Contrary to what Western culture & media would have us believe, it is NOT a virtue to speak the truth at any cost. There are many cultures, esp asian ones, that think only children & fools blurt out the 'truth' whenever they feel like it.

Truth is in the eye of the beholder, as the saying goes. It is something to be wielded wisely, not just lobbed out there for anyone & everyone to see. Personally, I believe timing is more important than truth.

PP, haven't you thought that your need to speak the truth could have been MORE effective if you handled it differently? Don't you care about the aftermath of what you do at least as much as doing it? Whose sake are you really speaking the truth for? Your friends, or yours?

Think about it.

[IndiReloaded]

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Originally Posted by misombra

i feel a little bad for petite. i've been in a similar situation. i told my "friend" that her boyfriend tried to molest me and what i thought was the right thing to do turned into one of the most miserable, painful, and embarrassing situations of my life.

Yes, I do too. So Miso, knowing what you know now, how would you have handled the situation you mention? Just for a contrasting example?

[misombra]

knowing what i know now, i would never even be in that situation.

i wish i had not said anything and left all those people alone.

[Illusional]

besides, i would choose my friend over their ex any day....

raverboy