Immediate help confused guy

[DannyG1014]

OK I've been dating this girl seriously for 7 months now, my first love. I'm 24 shes 22. About a month ago there was all this talk of here moving closer to me and that eventually when my lease runs out next january we would discuss moving in and all these future plans. It all of a sudden hit me on how serious of a step that is. I just can't imagine being 25 living with my first love or serious relationship girlfriend either.

I love her very much no fights or problems EVER. Yet I still want to see what is out there. I'm not a man whore or anything either as Ive only been with 3 women. I am worried if i tell her hwo i feel (that i love her more than anyone else but for me to make or consider a commitment like that I need to be sure shes the one for me and i really feel i need to explore other options or something to be ure of that). I feel like such a piece of shit for thinking all this b/c she has done nothing wrong, its just the same routine for months and i want to be sure i do what is best for me even if i risk her being out of my life forever.

How should I handle this or speak to hear about what I am thinking?

[vashti]

You've only been dating 7 months. It's too soon to be thinking of living together. Why don't you wait until you've been dating at least a couple of years to do that? By then, if you aren't into her anymore, it will probably be more obvious.

[Pears]

I agree, a few years would be more reasonable before thinking of living together. If you are thinking of exploring other opportunities, which is okay, then you should not get a place with her.

You said you wanted to explore other options. Are you willing to break up with her in order to do that? It is risky. If you go out and explore, then there is a chance that you may not be with her again. Of course you may meet someone way better, but you could also never find anyone you like as much as her. It's a risk and you'll have to think about what is more important to you: (1) the chance to maybe find someone better or worse or (2) be with someone you like already and not lose her.

[jinx343]

don't get into things drastically if you're not sure about it yourself. talk to your girlfriend. talk about the pros and cons of getting into it. tell her your honest opinion and ask hers as well. i'm sure you would come to a compromise if you will lay everything out. you're both young. no need to rush. plus, 7 months? it's too short a time. give it a few years to take things to another level considering that you said so yourself, you still want to explore what's outside there. which clearly shows you're not eager for a commitment... and having thought of letting go of the relationship perhaps? maybe after a few more years and if you're still together and you still have the same feelings, i'm pretty sure you wont have second thoughts anymore in doing the things you would really want to do . you clearly need to evaluate yourself and know what you really want right now. seems like you will need a deep thinking weigh things out.