met a girl - Love Forum

zerokool189 · #1 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:17 AM

so i met a girl on cinco de mayo. i have seen her around town for some time and i know that she has seen me too. well during the night she kept staring over. i finally walked over and began to talk to her. she seemed very excited and talked for quite some time. well i wanted to get back with my friends so i asked how i could contact her, she said something about facebook. then she handed me one of her business cards. i gave her one of mine and went on my way. well as i was talking to my friends i looked over to her and her friends and it seemed like she was talking about me. her friends kept looking over i guess to see if they approve. i caught one friend looking and she immediately turned her head. so i went to talk to the girl once more. this time we spoke for quite a while, we seemed to be on the same level which was a good thing. she ignored some phone calls. she had to go to the bathroom and told me to stay put, dont move a muscle. i moved lol, i saw her come back and i followed her to tell her that i was leaving. she said that it was great meeting me and came in for a big hug. the next day i found her on facebook and sent her a message. it was something a long the lines of it was great meeting you, if you arent busy this week maybe we can meet up sometime. i sent the message 2 days ago. she hasnt replied. she told me to contact her on facebook... maybe she was drunk? it didnt seem like it though. im thinking that maybe i shouldve called her. what should i do at this point?

littlewing · #2 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:26 AM

If you have her phone number then DO call her. I think she is thinking about what happened, she is not in a rush to reply on your Facebook message. She is still evaluating you, she didn't really get a chance to do that at the meeting. But the good thing is that very few people would give their Facebook to strangers... only Facebook junkies would...

if she has like 500 friends and her facebook is full of crap like kisses, funwall, zombies then she is likely a junkie

Gigabitch · #3 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:31 AM

All you can do is wait and try not to drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what she's thinking.

You know what's real. She liked you. You liked her. You did all the right things and now you have to continue to appear confident, so don't message her any more.

zerokool189 · #4 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:37 AM

i wont message her anymore, she doesnt seem like a junkie. the only thing that would make her appear to be on facebook a lot is she has tons of pictures. if i were to call her should i do it today or wait a little longer.

gigabitch, thanks for pointing out that i did all the right things. now when i call should i bring up that message or just pretend like i never sent it.

Gigabitch · #5 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:39 AM

No, why would you do that? The best defense against girl-craziness is to be as up-front and straightforward as possible. Don't play games- let her come to understand that they're beneath you.

It's possible she just hasn't checked her Facebook messages, you know. Everything could be just fine.

zerokool189 · #6 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 01:35 AM

when you said no, why would you do that did you mean i should tell her about the message or i shouldnt bring it up.

p.s. thanks for listening and writing back, i really appreciate it.

Gigabitch · #7 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 02:41 AM

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Originally Posted by zerokool189

gigabitch, thanks for pointing out that i did all the right things. now when i call should i bring up that message or just pretend like i never sent it.

This. Pretending you never sent a message when you did is... weird. Don't do that. When she finally gets in touch, you don't have to bring it up or anything, but you could tell her (in a flirty way) that you're aware that she was making you sweat it out by not replying right away. Be as confident as you can about this- don't act all wounded or confrontational.

zerokool189 · #8 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 03:22 AM

so i shouldnt call her? i should just wait for her to get in touch with me?

littlewing · #9 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 08:05 AM

Call her already DAMNIT!!!

Gigabitch · #10 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by littlewing

Call her already DAMNIT!!!

Wrong. Sorry, but I have a lot more experience with this than you do, and from the other side of it. She told him that Facebook was the way to get in touch. If a few more days go by, I say yes, call her, but her met her three days ago. Three days. That means he messaged her not more than two days ago.

zerokool189 · #11 (**permalink**) 10-05-08, 04:09 AM

i havent called and i dont plan on calling. however, if she does contact me then we can move on from there. shes 26, you think she'd be done playing games...