Will you go for a trip with your ex-gf? - Love Forum

crystalheart · #1 (**permalink**) 03-05-08, 08:58 PM

Will you go for a trip with your ex-gf (only two of you)?
And you know she still has feelings for you?

The situation is: she wants to go for a trip, but her friend cannot go at (almost) the last min; the city she is going is the place you always want to go, will you go with her?

If the guy decided to go with the ex-gf, what does it mean? Or, what is he thinking about?
He knows there is no "friends with benefits" type of thing in her world.

vashti · #2 (**permalink**) 03-05-08, 09:04 PM

Don't do it unless you are interested in getting back together with her. It woud be cruel, considering she still has feelings.

Asparagoose · #3 (**permalink**) 04-05-08, 07:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by crystalheart

Will you go for a trip with your ex-gf (only two of you)?
And you know she still has feelings for you?

The situation is: she wants to go for a trip, but her friend cannot go at (almost) the last min; the city she is going is the place you always want to go, will you go with her?

If the guy decided to go with the ex-gf, what does it mean? Or, what is he thinking about?
He knows there is no "friends with benefits" type of thing in her world.

I think it would have something to do with if the guy still had any feeling for the ex-gf. If there's nothing else to the story, then I don't see what the big deal is. If I was on friendly terms with my ex and we wanted to go to a trip together, and it happened to be just the two of us, we would go. It doesn't mean anything unless one of them makes it into something strange.

bohemiandonut · #4 (**permalink**) 04-05-08, 09:59 AM

First of all, why would you post this without even letting us know anything about your situation? From your other posts I see that you are the ex gf who wants her ex bf back and he broke up with you. These kind of details are important.

Anyway, I think it would be a pretty dumb move on your part to take your ex bf. You will feel used if he doesn't get back together with you and that will ruin your trip. You should determine your standing with him before traveling with him.

Illusional · #5 (**permalink**) 04-05-08, 10:32 AM

yes, i was going to say what vash said.. however, who the f*ck are you talking about in your post?? make yourself clearer.

raverboy

vashti · #6 (**permalink**) 04-05-08, 12:02 PM

Don't act like a dumb girl. Clarify the nature of this relationship before you go.

crystalheart · #7 (**permalink**) 04-05-08, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by vashti

Don't act like a dumb girl. Clarify the nature of this relationship before you go.

This relationship is very complicated. First he broke up with me, and then we kinda got back together. There was only one weekend we were not together. But I didn't feel safe, and don't think he wants to committe, so I gave up (called it off).

For this trip, we clarified that we are friends now, but I won't deny that I still have feelings for him.

I just don't understand why he wants to go with me, why he still wants to hang out with me? Isn't it unusual?

DaudRaza · #8 (**permalink**) 05-05-08, 10:38 PM

I Guess Not Really Or Maybe Yea

Gigabitch · #9 (**permalink**) 05-05-08, 11:08 PM

You're playing with fire and you're going to get burned.

crystalheart · #10 (**permalink**) 06-05-08, 08:12 AM

Thanks guys, I know I need self control now, and I will try my best.

Tedel · #11 (**permalink**) 07-05-08, 10:37 PM

IF things are clear between you two, go. If you have doubts, be careful and stay home.

Off2College · #12 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 11:02 AM

I wouldn't. I was thinking about calling up my ex today and inviting her to my new city to chill a bit. but then I thought the better of it. Want to move on.

Illusional · #13 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 11:09 AM

who wants to live in the past when we have the future to look foward to?

raverboy

Pears · #14 (**permalink**) 09-05-08, 12:08 PM

Don't invite him. Write a big sign to yourself and stick it somewhere you see a lot.

clearskies · #15 (**permalink**) 28-05-08, 02:56 AM

if u broke then u broke... broken pieces of glass cant be set together again... got what i want to say? forget these temporary solutions.. they r putting u no where .. try to move on, i know its hard but u have to do it instead of he doing it and ur pain will be more ..