Confused: my crush is a married man

[sudalady]

I had a crush with a married American man last year during our working together here in China. He is only one year younger than my FATHER. He seems to be care a lot about me, as whenever he comes to China, he would travel to visit me in my own city. Last year during our date, we kissed passionately. It was my first adult kiss with a man. But later I told him to keep a distance since he'd already had his own family, wife and a one-year-old son (For me, it hurt to ask him to do so). Yet, he continued coming to see me, keeping a distance though.
I really don't know what does he expect in our relationship? Does he want only friendship? or more? My interpertation is that he really cherish the friendship, that's why he tried not to go any further in order not to ruin our friendship.
What do you think? Is there any cultural specific aspects that I do not know?Do you think I should stop such a confusing relationship?

[vashti]

The cultural aspects you may not be aware of is that men who travel for business often want to hook up with pretty young girls because their wives won't be able to find out. Also, these men will never leave their wife, especially for someone whose age is such an obvious issue.

The reason he is still hanging around is that he is waiting for you to let your guard down because he knows you are on the brink of giving in.

Be smart. Give him the boot. Forget about being friends - he's not interested in that.

[sudalady]

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Originally Posted by vashti

The cultural aspects you may not be aware of is that men who travel for business often want to hook up with pretty young girls because their wives won't be able to find out. Also, these men will never leave their wife, especially for someone whose age is such an obvious issue.

The reason he is still hanging around is that he is waiting for you to let your guard down because he knows you are on the brink of giving in.

Be smart. Give him the boot. Forget about being friends - he's not interested in that.

Thanks. I really did not realize it before. Now I know.

[NoRegrets]

Do you really want a man, who is willing to cheat on his wife with whom he has a 1 year old son?

What makes you think he'll be faithful to you, even if he DOES leave his wife?

[CAM]

S-T-O-P

Cordially,

Cameron, Esq.

[Gigabitch]

What do you think your parents would say about this guy buzzing around you like a fly? They would swat him. So would I. Don't let him near you- he wants to take your innocence and leave you behind.

[littlewing]

Yep... looks like he wants some action away from home....

[DarkDwarf]

If he is old enough to be your father, you shouldn't be dating him. Then you factor in the fact that he just wants to date you because you are young and he cannot get caught, and you realize you really shouldn't be seeing him.

Good luck!